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I’m still here!

👋🏾 Hello everyone! 👋🏾

It’s been a while since my last post. I recently launched my YouTube channel, and dealing with other things in my personal life, so I’ve been a bit withdrawn from my blog.

Nonetheless I’ll be posting more on my blog. I have lots of things I’ve been wanting to share, and I will share them!

So if you haven’t, check out my my channel here.

Live Life

¡Hola!

If you follow my blog, you know that I created a list of 30 things to do by the time I made 30. You can read about here, 30 by 30, or see it below 👇🏾, with the things I’ve completed crossed off.

  1. Spend 30 Minutes talking to a stranger.
  2. Get a bikini wax. I know, I know! The thought just makes me cringe though.
  3. Visit a new city in Texas
  4. Experience a sensory deprivation chamber.
  5. Spend $30 on lunch for someone
  6. Do a Boudoir photo shoot. Gotta let this inner Goddess out!
  7. Spend an entire weekend alone. I have no idea how this one will happen.
  8. Go sky diving
  9. Get another tattoo/ piercing. I have one tattoo that I got when I was 18.
  10. Eat a meal I’ve never had before. Like that time I ate Guinea pig in Peru.
  11. Go on a hot air balloon ride
  12. Learn to gamble. I know absolutely nothing about gambling. I’d rather lose my money to buying shoes.
  13. Go camping. As a kid I always wanted to do this.
  14. Skinny dipping, YOLO!
  15. Learn to twerk. I’ve given it some half ass attempts, but I need to use my whole ass and commit
  16. Write and record a song. I can’t sing or rap, so this will be interesting.
  17. Start a garden. I’ll have to figure out how to do so on my apartment patio.
  18. Become a mentor. Everybody needs one or a few
  19. Write a letter to my 40- year old self. I’m sure 40 -year old Sarah will laugh and say “Girl you are crazy”.
  20. Go on a Baecation. That requires a bae, so I’ll work on that part.
  21. Purchase something expensive.
  22. Take more pictures. I am rarely in pictures, if you don’t count selfies, but I just don’t take pictures. I need to capture more moments in my life.
  23. Do something freaky. I’m not even sure what that means, and it’s up for interpretation. But when I do it, I’m sure I’ll say “that was some freaky sh*t”.
  24. Meditate 30 consecutive days. I can go about 10 days, then fall off the wagon.
  25. Write an E-Book. I have no idea what it will be about, but I’ll get it done.
  26. Read 5 new books. I read my fair share of children’s books, I need to enrich my own mind as well.
  27. Visit each one of my friends. We all live in different cities, and I think it would be nice to visit them in their element.
  28. Start my 40 things to do before 40 list. That list will be much more intricate, as I’ll have more time to compose it.
  29. Learn other languages. I won’t just pick one, as I am heavily into linguistics.
  30. Go to a hoedown.

Now some items were partially completed, like item 26. I read two books, and purchased more.

Some items where replaced by similar experiences. For example, I didn’t do item 4, but I did cryotherapy.

A few items were scheduled, but the weather simply did not permit.

Nonetheless, having made this list somehow made me more conscious of wanting to experience new things.

I was listening to an old speech by Jim Rohn, and he stated that one of the best things about having a list is checking things off, and being able to say ” I did that”. He was absolutely correct!

Having a written list of goals and desires helps propel you into completing and accomplishing them, which to me, goes back to the Law of Attraction. I’ve found that you shouldn’t worry too much about how the things will happen.

Never shy away from living life. I’m still working on honing in on my manifestation skills, but things always work out as they should.

Live life on purpose, don’t settle for the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve. Unapologetically live your life, after all it is YOURS.

Creating that list sparked something within me. I began deliberately going after the things I wanted to experience as opposed to wishing I’d experience them. We were designed to live life abundantly, and we should conduct ourselves accordingly.

What are some things you desire to experience? What’s keeping you from experiencing them?

Testing, Testing

A couple days ago, I woke up feeling some kind of way. As many of you know, Amir had 3 major head surgeries before he was a year old. The aftermath required him to have to go to different therapies to reach all his developmental milestones again (though thing for a parent to deal with). I remember at one of his neurology appointments, the neurologist told me “ You can have him tested to be put in special ed”. I told her that wouldn’t be necessary, but he was like two, so I was like what the fuck. That shit was always in the back of my mind. She was ready to label him without even really knowing him or assessing him.

Fast forward to now

He’s gearing up to attend Pre-K in the fall, and because he stutters occasionally, I went ahead and had him assessed. Ya know because I don’t want anything in the way of him learning.

The woman who assessed him took my concerns just as seriously as I did, and I appreciate that. I explained his medical history to her, and she was shocked. She stated how she never would’ve guessed he had gone through so much.

So boom, she begins assessing him. He’s ripping through these tests like it’s nothing. Answering everything with ease, and a bit of smartassness, (pretty sure I made that up). He even knew things I thought he didn’t know, things he’d tell me ” I don’t know” as an answer when we are reviewing material. Every so often she’d stop and say “Mom, I don’t know what you’re worried about, he’s really smart”.

I could see for myself she was thoroughly impressed, her body language said it all. She tested him for about 30 minutes, right. When she was done, she stated how he’s performing how they expect 6 year olds to perform. I was like what you talking about Willis. To me he was simply being smart ass Amir. (Insert gif)

She stated how she only heard him *insert technical name for stuttering here* once, and that it certainly does not affect his learning abilities.

Having him tested eased a lot of things for me. Knowing my 3-year and 9 month old perform how they expect 6-year olds to perform was quite comforting. My efforts of educating him have paid off.

After the assessment was done, I began to think about how the neurologist was ready to throw him into special education. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with special education, but I do have a problem with people labeling children, particularly black boys, before giving them a chance to display what they are capable of.

Parents should certainly get their children the help they need, but don’t let anyone label your children. You have to fight with and for your children. Don’t ever let anyone just throw labels on them.

I wonder where my baby would be now had I settled for what the neurologist suggested.

Nonetheless, I am super excited about my baby going to big boy school. He’s so elated to finally be going to school with his big brother. Hmm 🤔, I wonder what the results would show if I had my oldest tested, that kid is highly intelligent.

Each one of my children have taught me very different things, and that’s what motherhood is about. Not only are we to teach our children, but they teach us.

This journey with Prince Amir has been an extremely turbulent one at times, but oh so beautiful.

If you haven’t, you can read about it here

Strawberry Banana Mimosas

It’s Galentine’s Day!

Galentine’s Day is just like Valentine’s Day, except you celebrate with your friends. I mean do you really need a reason to hang out with your friends?

To celebrate, I made strawberry banana mimosas, and they were delish!

I promise they are super easy to make.

Here’s what I used:

Sparkling rosé (the brand is based on your preference)

A oz bottle of Naked Strawberry Banana flavor

Strawberries for garnish

And here’s what I did:

Filled the champagne flutes about 1/2 way with the Naked juice.

Filled the glass to the top with sparkling rosé

Sliced a couple strawberries for garnish and placed them on the glass.

Then used a coffee straw to stir the mixture in each glass.

Dasit! 😝 Super easy and super yummy. 😋

I found a billion recipes, but I never follow recipes. There more of a reference for me than an actual plan.

Being that I juice, I could’ve simply made some juice, but I didn’t want the hassle of cleaning up.

And honestly, when drinking with friends, who really want to do all that extra work.

Nonetheless, you should definitely enjoy your friends on this Galentine’s!

What are some of your favorites mimosa recipes?

Cauliflower Buffalo Bites

I and my sons LOVE hot wings. 🗣 Love them you hear me! 🗣 So not being able to eat them on my quest to transition myself and my family’s diet to mostly plant based was hard as hell!

I came across countless recipes for cauliflower buffalo bites, and finally decided to try them.

Honestly, each recipe was the same, with maybe one or two things done differently. So I decided to play around with what I had in my kitchen already, with the exception of cauliflower.

Here’s what I did 👇🏾

I cut the leaves off the cauliflower head, and took the florets off as well.

I coated the florets with a mixture of whole wheat flour and water, with some black pepper

I wanted my bites to be a little crispy, so baked them in the oven somewhere between 15-20 minutes on 350.

Once they were brown and crisp, I took them out and coated them with Louisiana Wing Sauce.

They were so good and spicier than I expected. I wasn’t able to plate them and take an awesome pic, as my sons started eating them as soon as I sauced them.

My oldest is sitting next to me as I edit this post, apparently he didn’t know it wasn’t chicken 🤗

Mama 1: Kids 0

I’m going to work on posting regularly about the various foods we try ( I have to work on taking photos of each step).

Thanks for reading, and check out my post Going Green where I initially talk about going on this meatless journey.

The Skin I’m In

I’m 2 months shy of being 30, and I can finally say I am comfortable with my body. I’m low key cringing now typing this.

In high school, guys used to tell me I was built like a man because of my athletic build 🙄. I’m one of those people who can noticeably tone their body after just a few days of exercise.

I have always had big legs, playing sports enhanced that, making that an insecurity for a LONG time.

After I had my second son, I had beaucoup stretch marks. Which I never really cared about, but I like wearing crop tops so 🤷🏾‍♀️.

I think as women we stress way too much over superficial things. I previously wrote about doing what makes you comfortable (Do You Boo), and that’s some advice I needed to take myself.

Yes I have stretch marks, yes my legs are huge, yes I have a lil gut (don’t be fooled by the pics), and I’m not the most curvy woman, but 🖕🏾 it.

I love my lil body, all one hundred and 80lbs of it. A part of my mission is encouraging other women to feel comfortable with themselves. Truth is we’re all working on getting over insecurities. Take it a day at a time. It’s taken me roughly 12 years to be completely comfortable with mybody.

❄️ Snow Day ❄️

Yesterday was a snow day in Southeast Texas, but we only got sleet. I’m a little salty about that. We were indoors pigging our on king cake and chips and salsa 😩. Our first and last true snow day was back in December, and my sons and I had a blast.

We don’t get snow days often, so when we do, they’re extremely memorable. So because we were snow-less, I’ll show some of our pics from the last snow day.

Baby boy was truly amazed.

He was super excited about a snowball fight

He’s not too fond of the snow.

Even though we had no snow day yesterday, our December snow day was pretty cool. It inspired me to plan a vacation to somewhere with better snow. As a kid I lived in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and I think it’d be pretty cool to take the boys. I vividly remember our snow days there.

Do you enjoy snow days? What are some of your favorite winter destinations? Do you live in a place that gets snow regularly during the winter?

I’d love to make friends with other moms in various cities. I just think it’d be cool to say “Hey! We’re going to visit insert name here over in DC this winter”.

In the age of social media, we have opportunities to make friends all over, but I think we’re all scared for whatever reasons.

Anyhow, I’m still salty about no snow yesterday! 

I Love You 

An incident occurred between myself and my son that inspired me to write this.

We recently moved into a bigger apartment, and as I was unpacking, he kept messing with things I asked him not to. I ignored him for a bit, then I fussed at him. In the midst of me fussing, he put his hand on my face, and said “Mama, I love you”.

Not going to lie, it was the sweetest thing ever, buuuuuut it immediately made me think of the countless numbers of times, that mechanism has been used to attempt to deflect in a relationship.

I explained to him how I loved him too, but it doesn’t negate the fact that I was upset with him for continuing to do something he was specifically told not to do.

This whole ordeal had me thinking about the behaviors men pick up in childhood, that carry over into their adult life.  P.S. I’m generalizing, but I’m more than sure it’s applicable to most.

I can recall a couple occurrences where the “I love you” or “Do you still love me” card was pulled, and even then I wondered what did that have to do with the issue at hand.

Is this something men do to get you to forget why you’re mad? Is it supposed to make me be any less mad? And how did my 3-year old know to attempt it?


Being a boy mom, I have always fought to raise emotionally intelligent sons, because as a woman I know the frustration of a man not understanding 🙄. I don’t want someone asking my sons “who raised you” or telling them their mama didn’t teach them anything.

I’m fairly certain that I explained to his 3-year old level of understanding how someone’s feelings towards you shouldn’t change when they’re mad or what have you AND that you shouldn’t try to use love or the illusion there of to manipulate them.

This makes me wonder the number of men who wouldn’t be fuck boys had someone sat them down during their youth and explained what emotional intelligence and accountability is.

I said all of this to say, when you see your children or children you interact with regularly exhibiting certain behaviors you know to be manipulative, correct them. They hear you. They may act like they don’t, oh but they do. We have to hold children accountable for the things they do in order for them to grow into adults who hold themselves accountable.

Many things I have experienced while dating, have helped me to learn what to watch for and intercept with my sons. After all, I am raising someone’s future husband.

 10 Facts About Me

Sending positive energy everyone’s way.

I haven’t been writing much lately, and I miss it. One thing I have always wanted to do was give my readers some insight on who I am. What better way than to give you all some facts about me.

Let’s jump right in.

#1. Not that interesting, but worth noting,  I am the oldest sibling. At times I really hate it, because I’m often put in situations where i have to rescue my siblings. Oftentimes when I give advice, they don’t listen, and then I have to hit them with the “I told you so”. It’s a stressful job but somebody has to do it.

#2. Nobody believes me at first, but I wear a size 11 shoe. Once I convince people that its true, they always say my feet don’t look that big. I mean they are pretty proportionate to the rest of my body, so it doesn’t look strange. Here’s a post I’ve previously written on where I get most of my shoes, 6 Inch.

#3. I am a huge Future fan 🙈. I freakin love that man, he has a song for any mood that I may be in. I’m not sure why so many people dislike him and his music. Not only do I love his music, but he’s easy on the eyes. My friends tell me every time they see a post of his come up in their newsfeeds, they know it’s because I liked it.

I finally had a chance to meet him, and he said he liked my hair 😁

 

 

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Performing his hit song “Mask off” June 22nd 2017, The Woodlands TX

#4. I am constantly changing my hair. I love trying new looks, it’s fun. People assume that people who change their hair a lot have no sense of self, and I completely disagree with that. I know who I am, and I simply like having different hairstyles and colors. 🤷🏾‍♀️

My current hair
My natural hair in twists

I miss my box braids
Feed-in braids

#5. Mental health is a serious issue to me. People very frequently brush mental health off,  and it’s not something to be taken lightly. I am highly upset when I hear people make jokes about the mental health of others. Inner peace is something everyone deserves to have. People should address issues they may have and not let anyone convince them that they’re crazy, making things up, or what have you. Seek the help that you need, you’ll love yourself for that. Your mental wellness is a great part of who you are. #6. ​I’ll probably be a forever student. My mom used to tell me as a teenager, that I’d probably be in school the rest of my life. I thoroughly enjoy school. Presently I have a Bachelors degree in History from the University of Louisiana Monroe (Go Hawks Go), I am currently working on my Masters in Public Administration. Once I finish my masters program, I plan to go to massage therapy school. I also have plans to become a certified doula. I do my best to let others know that you can accomplish any and everything you desire to do in life.

#7. I love to travel. My travels began in undergrad with study abroad. If you or anyone close to you has the opportunity to do so, GO FOR IT! My primary goal is to visit all states 2-3 times with a different adventure in mind every time. I include my children when deciding on what to do on our adventures. They come up with pretty sweet ideas, might I add. I have a Cabo and Korea trip in the works, so stay tuned for that. You should know travel really is not expensive with the right amount of planning.  Our latest adventure was to Lawn and Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. I encourage everyone to travel, even if its no mare than exploring other cities in the area you live.

I got to stop by Geronimo’s grave in Fort Sill

#8. I hate taking pictures! I would much rather be the person behind the camera. I find posing for pics extremely awkward. So I guess I could say I don/t like taking pics because I never know what how to pose. It’s not so bad when I have some direction on what to do.

#9. I can very easily unplug form the world. When I feel overwhelmed with life, my phone is the first thing to get the boot. I will put it on do not disturb and spend as much time alone as possible ( it can seem impossible with a 3 and 5 year old).  Hmm, I guess this goes back to number 5. My friends know that once I have figured it all out, I come back to society. Some would say that a Pisces thing. ♓️
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