I’m So Proud Of You

As a mother of two, I try to make sure both my boys get some one on one time with me.

I usually treat them to something they’ve been asking to do, and I let them talk about whatever it is that is on their minds.

Two weeks ago, I surprised my oldest with crawfish and a slush after school. The night before, he displayed behavior that made me so proud of him.

My baby boy had an ingrown toenail, and he was super whiny about it (I would’ve been too).

As I’m doctoring on his toe, he began to cry a little. Big brother came right in and grabbed his face, one hand on each cheek and said “It’s okay brother. I know it hurts, but mama is tryna make it better”. Baby brother then whimpers out “Okay”. It was the sweetest thing I had ever witnessed.

While still holding his cheeks, he coached his brother through a series of deep breaths.

Before he knew it, I was done, and his toe felt better.

“See big brother told you it was gonna be okay”.

I couldn’t help but smile when I heard that.

As the eldest sibling, you naturally swoop in and save your siblings. I was so proud of that display of love and care.

During our date I let him talk as usual. When it was all said and done, he gave me a hug and said ” I love you mommy”.

Sometimes I feel like I’m surely messing up as a mother, there’s no official guide to motherhood. However these precious moments confirm that I’m doing something right.

I am so proud of my son and how much he’s grown over the years.

Being the oldest is a sucky job at times, but someone has to do it.

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Charcoal Seaweed Mask Review

Lately my skin had been feeling rough. No matter how often I washed, it just didn’t have that smoothness. I decided it was time to mask my skin.

I found this charcoal and seaweed mask at Walmart for $2.50. I had never used it before, so that solidified my decision to try it.

I had never used a mask like this, I generally use ones that you have to apply and spread on your face as opposed to a sheet.

Anyhow, I opened the masks d unfolded it. I peeled the first layer off and arranged the mask on my face. Once I had it settled, I peeled the other side off. This one was harder to remove, as I did not want to disrupt the mask placement on my face,

After I had it on, I felt as if I looked led like Hannibal taunting Clarice.

I left it on for 30 minutes. After I removed it, I rubbed the rest of the serum into my skin as instructed.

The next morning, I washed my face as usual. Before I was to moisturize, I noticed how soft and smooth my skin felt. I didn’t put moisturizer in, and jumped straight into my makeup routine, applying primer first.

My skin has been rather smooth these past couple of days.

I give this mask two thumbs up 👍🏾 👍🏾, and for $2.50, you can’t beat that.

I may buy a bunch and gift them to my friends.

Cheers 🥂 to healthy skin!

Testing, Testing

A couple days ago, I woke up feeling some kind of way. As many of you know, Amir had 3 major head surgeries before he was a year old. The aftermath required him to have to go to different therapies to reach all his developmental milestones again (though thing for a parent to deal with). I remember at one of his neurology appointments, the neurologist told me “ You can have him tested to be put in special ed”. I told her that wouldn’t be necessary, but he was like two, so I was like what the fuck. That shit was always in the back of my mind. She was ready to label him without even really knowing him or assessing him.

Fast forward to now

He’s gearing up to attend Pre-K in the fall, and because he stutters occasionally, I went ahead and had him assessed. Ya know because I don’t want anything in the way of him learning.

The woman who assessed him took my concerns just as seriously as I did, and I appreciate that. I explained his medical history to her, and she was shocked. She stated how she never would’ve guessed he had gone through so much.

So boom, she begins assessing him. He’s ripping through these tests like it’s nothing. Answering everything with ease, and a bit of smartassness, (pretty sure I made that up). He even knew things I thought he didn’t know, things he’d tell me ” I don’t know” as an answer when we are reviewing material. Every so often she’d stop and say “Mom, I don’t know what you’re worried about, he’s really smart”.

I could see for myself she was thoroughly impressed, her body language said it all. She tested him for about 30 minutes, right. When she was done, she stated how he’s performing how they expect 6 year olds to perform. I was like what you talking about Willis. To me he was simply being smart ass Amir. (Insert gif)

She stated how she only heard him *insert technical name for stuttering here* once, and that it certainly does not affect his learning abilities.

Having him tested eased a lot of things for me. Knowing my 3-year and 9 month old perform how they expect 6-year olds to perform was quite comforting. My efforts of educating him have paid off.

After the assessment was done, I began to think about how the neurologist was ready to throw him into special education. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with special education, but I do have a problem with people labeling children, particularly black boys, before giving them a chance to display what they are capable of.

Parents should certainly get their children the help they need, but don’t let anyone label your children. You have to fight with and for your children. Don’t ever let anyone just throw labels on them.

I wonder where my baby would be now had I settled for what the neurologist suggested.

Nonetheless, I am super excited about my baby going to big boy school. He’s so elated to finally be going to school with his big brother. Hmm 🤔, I wonder what the results would show if I had my oldest tested, that kid is highly intelligent.

Each one of my children have taught me very different things, and that’s what motherhood is about. Not only are we to teach our children, but they teach us.

This journey with Prince Amir has been an extremely turbulent one at times, but oh so beautiful.

If you haven’t, you can read about it here

I Love Your Style

Hey there!

I recently went out in Beaumont for the first time ever, and it was fun! I flew solo as I don’t have any friends here.

The occasion was a 90s party, so I jumped at the opportunity. Ya know, because I love the 90s!

What I had originally envisioned to wear didn’t work out 😩 #bummer

I wasn’t too distraught, as I have countless outfit ideas in mind.

I miraculously found my hoodie at Forever 21. They have great 90s styles! Everything else I already owned. See outfit below 👇🏾

When I walked in the bar, lots of people immediately commented how they liked my ensemble. It was kind of weird at first, but hey 🤷🏾‍♀️.

When I was at the bar this guy commented on how my Nintendo hoodie was awesome 🤙🏾.

Once I had made my final round to the bar, a random drunk lady walked up to me and asked was I from Beaumont. My reply was no of course. She went on to say that she could tell from the way I was dressed, and thanked me for bringing my style to Beaumont. It was weird as hell, but I’m finding the most random moments in my life confirm a lot of things I put out into the universe.

We went on to slap slap bracelets on each other’s wrists. I mean what’s a 90s party without them?

The few photos I have from that night were taken by other drunk women. There’s an unspoken allegiance is women have when drunk.

Overall the night was great, and I’ll definitely be going out more. Going out alone isn’t all that weird, it’s all in your mind. How else will one make friends if they are always in the house.

Hoodie: Forever 21

Shorts: Rue 21

Boots: Dr Martens

Beanie: Forever 21

Also to be noted, my blog post have slowed down due to my kids breaking both my laptop and desktop 😩. Actually my desktop won’t power on, so I won’t blame that on the boys, but they are certainly the cause of the broken laptop. My screen is cracked, badly.

Anywho, I’m being diligent in my next laptop purchase, and will be back to weekly posts once I do.

Thanks for stopping by! 💋

I Love You 

An incident occurred between myself and my son that inspired me to write this.

We recently moved into a bigger apartment, and as I was unpacking, he kept messing with things I asked him not to. I ignored him for a bit, then I fussed at him. In the midst of me fussing, he put his hand on my face, and said “Mama, I love you”.

Not going to lie, it was the sweetest thing ever, buuuuuut it immediately made me think of the countless numbers of times, that mechanism has been used to attempt to deflect in a relationship.

I explained to him how I loved him too, but it doesn’t negate the fact that I was upset with him for continuing to do something he was specifically told not to do.

This whole ordeal had me thinking about the behaviors men pick up in childhood, that carry over into their adult life.  P.S. I’m generalizing, but I’m more than sure it’s applicable to most.

I can recall a couple occurrences where the “I love you” or “Do you still love me” card was pulled, and even then I wondered what did that have to do with the issue at hand.

Is this something men do to get you to forget why you’re mad? Is it supposed to make me be any less mad? And how did my 3-year old know to attempt it?


Being a boy mom, I have always fought to raise emotionally intelligent sons, because as a woman I know the frustration of a man not understanding 🙄. I don’t want someone asking my sons “who raised you” or telling them their mama didn’t teach them anything.

I’m fairly certain that I explained to his 3-year old level of understanding how someone’s feelings towards you shouldn’t change when they’re mad or what have you AND that you shouldn’t try to use love or the illusion there of to manipulate them.

This makes me wonder the number of men who wouldn’t be fuck boys had someone sat them down during their youth and explained what emotional intelligence and accountability is.

I said all of this to say, when you see your children or children you interact with regularly exhibiting certain behaviors you know to be manipulative, correct them. They hear you. They may act like they don’t, oh but they do. We have to hold children accountable for the things they do in order for them to grow into adults who hold themselves accountable.

Many things I have experienced while dating, have helped me to learn what to watch for and intercept with my sons. After all, I am raising someone’s future husband.

Refresh Yourself! 

So I have decided to add a section to my blog called, “Sarah’s  Self Care Suggestions”. Here I will be giving tips on how one can better care for self, as self care is so vital. We cannot care for other people until we first take care ourselves.

As a mother, I know all too well the uncontrollable desire to put your children before yourself, when more than likely our children lack nothing. The first installment of this new section will be about detoxing and alkalizing the body with baking soda.

Many of us are familiar with baking soda being used in the kitchen for baking  and keeping the refrigerator odor free. Baking soda, also called sodium bicarbonate, is cost effective and a very efficient natural health commodity

Baking soda is one of the best ways to alkalize the body. It helps with issues such as hemorrhoids, yeast infections, urinary tract infections (UTIs), and balances the body pH, just to name a few. When your body is not alkalized, you are susceptible to inflammation and degeneration, ultimately creating an unfavorable environment. Scary, right?

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Now that I’ve given you some background information, I’m going to tell you how to create a detoxing spa experience at home.

Moms, you know that window of free time you have once you put the kids to bed, use it for yourself. Whatever didn’t get done, won’t get done, so don’t hurt yourself trying to do it. You deserve some time to yourself.

 The first thing you need to do is gather your supplies, baking soda of course being the most important. You can put on some relaxing music, light some candles, and burn some incense. Whatever you need to relax.

Next, fill the tub with hot water, as hot as you can stand it. Once you’ve filled your tub with water, put your baking soda in. Make sure its dissolved before getting in. I recommend first timers use just a cup of baking soda, and you can gradually increase the number of cups used the more you do this.

Soak for about 30-45 minutes. DRINK PLENTY OF WATER!! You will get thirsty when doing this. You should drink 20-32 ounces of water while soaking, and more once you get out.

After you’re done soaking, gently rinse your body off. I personally like to bathe with a lavender soap after my rinse to further relax the body to ensure a excellent nights sleep.

Once you’ve gotten out, do NOT moisturize your body, as your body will sweat out toxins while you’re sleeping. So you’ll need to wash your sheets after this as well.

 Wake up refreshed

 

So, when you feel your body getting out of sync and just feeling plain ‘ol nasty, take a baking soda bath to refresh yourself.

Your body will thank you. We cannot properly care for anyone or anything else until we first care for ourselves.

I hope you enjoyed this post, let me know your results if you decide to try this. Also, be on the look out for many more tips.

Thanks for reading!

 

 

 

 

No More Diapers! 

Hello! It’s been a while. Due to grad school and my personal life, I have been severely slacking in my writings. I have some unpublished posts that I’ll get around to posting in the next couple of days. 

This particular post is about how I potty trained my two year old, and how it feels damn good to not buy diapers. 

So my mom sent my sisters and me an article in our group chat about the 3-day potty training method. I was sucked in by the “3 day”. My almost 5 year old was potty trained by dad, so I was seeking the best method for my baby boy. I’m home with him all day, and it was much more feasible for me to potty train him than dad. 

In the article The Two-Day Method of Potty Training, it talked of what you needed for this method to work. I can say that time and patience were key. Oh, and lots, A LOT, of underwear!

His immediate reaction to seeing the potty for the first time

I purchased my son a potty, and we did not go anywhere for three days. I like to believe he was ready be dude he saw big brother using the restroom. Day one was a breeze, he only had one accident. Day two went just as well. Day 3 the same.  

Those three days went by easily. It wasn’t until a few days afterwards that we ran into bed wetting issues. I stopped giving him liquids after 7pm, and that issue resolved itself. 

Potty training seemed so simple, oh but then we ran into him not knowing when to go to the potty in the event of a bowel movement, ewww! Why wasn’t I warned about this?!? Ha, nobody told me I’d literally be cleaning sh!t up. Again, time and patience helped me through. He’d be so excited when he made it to the pot in time. 

Here we are in November, and he’s now a pro. I don’t want to jinx myself, but we still haven’t had bed wetting. The only issue we have now, is him waiting until the last minute to try to get to a toilet. L O L, I’ve found he has a thing for peeing outside. Will that even end?!?!

My kiddo will me 2 1/2 years next month, and I managed to have him potty trained before then. It took approximately 4 months to have him completely potty trained and independently going to the lavatory. I must say, it’s a great feeling having both boys out of diapers. It’s a greater feeling not having to buy diapers. 

This journey with my son wasn’t easy, there were times I was completely frustrated, I mean who wants to clean up poop, but rather than blowing my top, I talked to him and explained how big boys go in the potty, not on the floor. 

Somewhere along the line, he gave up hid potty and mow uses the big toilet. He even stands to pee, I think men should sit to pee, but hey. 

Be on the lookout for more posts in the next couple days, and a great big THANKS for reading!

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6 Inch 

“Six inch heels, she walked in the club like nobody’s business

Goddamn, she murdered everybody and I was her witness”

“6 Inch” is my favorite song of Beyoncé’s Lemonade album and thought it’d be a cute title for a blog about shoes. I love that song!

Shoes photographed were purchased from Lola Shoetique 

I am one of those people who the older I get, the more I prefer to be barefoot.  However, I love my heels. I wear an 11, and it’s slightly challenging  to find shoes in my size. Very rarely can I walk into a shoe store and walk out with a pair of heels.

This post is specifically for the ladies who wear size eleven shoes.

Here you go ladies!

Since my undergrad years, Go Jane has been one of the online retailers I could purchase shoes from. In the beginning it was hard. They had a very limited selection, and did not restock often. Oh but now! They have a great variety of shoes for those of us with larger feet, and they restock quite frequently. Go Jane even has the option to be notified when they restock a particular item.

These were purchased from Go Jane

 

Lola Shoetique is another retailer I just absolutely adore. They also have a great selection of shoes in 11’s. With them, I find that the larger sizes go QUICKLY and they do not restock as often. When you find a shoe you like here, purchase ASAP, as it may be gone if you decide to wait. I’ve been purchasing shoes from them for a few years now. The shoes come packaged very well.

These are my summer favs

 

Charlotte Russe is another retailer that carry 11’s. Once upon a time they were my go to retailer for all things shoes, as of late, not so much. Charlotte, now has a very limited selection of 11’s, if you ask me. In addition, they do not restock as often. I find that now I do not purchase many heels from them, but I do purchase cute little everyday sandals.

Shoedazzle as many of you may know by now, is a retailer that gives you a personal stylist after you answer a series of fashion questions. They send you a monthly boutique, shoes are 39.95 with VIP sign up, and you can skip the month of you don’t see anything you like. They have a pretty great selection of 11’s, but rarely does my boutique have something I just have to have. Oh but when they do, I get them! I am not exactly sure how they handle restocking, as they’ve never ran out of anything I’ve wanted to purchase. I think they may even have shoes larger than 11.

I believe these were purchased from Lola Shoetique

 

I have yet to purchase shoes from this retailer, but they are certainly on my radar. Smash Shoes sell shoes specifically in sizes 10-13. AWESOME! They have the latest styles, so one doesn’t have to worry about not being trendy. I’ve read great things about Smash Shoes and I’ll definitely be purchasing from them.

These were just a few of the retailers I know of that carry larger sizes. If you may know of any others let me know , and I’ll add them to the list. I want to spread the word to other women who want trendy shoes.

Cheers to all the shoemakers and retailers who recognize that women with larger feet love to be fashionable too! Ladies be proud of your shoe size!

I love my long feet and toes

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