Testing, Testing

A couple days ago, I woke up feeling some kind of way. As many of you know, Amir had 3 major head surgeries before he was a year old. The aftermath required him to have to go to different therapies to reach all his developmental milestones again (though thing for a parent to deal with). I remember at one of his neurology appointments, the neurologist told me “ You can have him tested to be put in special ed”. I told her that wouldn’t be necessary, but he was like two, so I was like what the fuck. That shit was always in the back of my mind. She was ready to label him without even really knowing him or assessing him.

Fast forward to now

He’s gearing up to attend Pre-K in the fall, and because he stutters occasionally, I went ahead and had him assessed. Ya know because I don’t want anything in the way of him learning.

The woman who assessed him took my concerns just as seriously as I did, and I appreciate that. I explained his medical history to her, and she was shocked. She stated how she never would’ve guessed he had gone through so much.

So boom, she begins assessing him. He’s ripping through these tests like it’s nothing. Answering everything with ease, and a bit of smartassness, (pretty sure I made that up). He even knew things I thought he didn’t know, things he’d tell me ” I don’t know” as an answer when we are reviewing material. Every so often she’d stop and say “Mom, I don’t know what you’re worried about, he’s really smart”.

I could see for myself she was thoroughly impressed, her body language said it all. She tested him for about 30 minutes, right. When she was done, she stated how he’s performing how they expect 6 year olds to perform. I was like what you talking about Willis. To me he was simply being smart ass Amir. (Insert gif)

She stated how she only heard him *insert technical name for stuttering here* once, and that it certainly does not affect his learning abilities.

Having him tested eased a lot of things for me. Knowing my 3-year and 9 month old perform how they expect 6-year olds to perform was quite comforting. My efforts of educating him have paid off.

After the assessment was done, I began to think about how the neurologist was ready to throw him into special education. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with special education, but I do have a problem with people labeling children, particularly black boys, before giving them a chance to display what they are capable of.

Parents should certainly get their children the help they need, but don’t let anyone label your children. You have to fight with and for your children. Don’t ever let anyone just throw labels on them.

I wonder where my baby would be now had I settled for what the neurologist suggested.

Nonetheless, I am super excited about my baby going to big boy school. He’s so elated to finally be going to school with his big brother. Hmm 🤔, I wonder what the results would show if I had my oldest tested, that kid is highly intelligent.

Each one of my children have taught me very different things, and that’s what motherhood is about. Not only are we to teach our children, but they teach us.

This journey with Prince Amir has been an extremely turbulent one at times, but oh so beautiful.

If you haven’t, you can read about it here


Treat Yo’self

Yesterday was Galentine’s Day, and all my gal pals live in other states. Today is Valentine’s Day, and I’m single. No biggie! I still treated myself.

I can’t stress enough to people how being single should not be something that worries you. Your singleness should empower you.

In your singleness. You should learn who you, what you like, what you don’t like, so on and so forth.

I never really understood why people let one day get them all bent out of shape. Something like Valentine’s Day shouldn’t define your entire existence. This post isn’t about bashing or complaining, it’s about appreciating self.

I know I love white chocolate strawberries, so I treated myself to some. No one should know you better than you know yourself.

This red velvet white chocolate strawberry was EVERYTHING
Coconut white chocolate

My babies got me some bath bombs, and I treated myself to a nice bath. Lemongrass bath bomb with pink rose petals. It was hella relaxing.

I’m a firm believer in the Law of Attraction. If I do for myself the things I want a prospective mate to do, he will.

Anything you want, go get it, do it. You are the author of your story.

Lemongrass Poppyseed soap was sensational

You should always treat yourself to new things and experiences as well as all the things you love. Show yourself appreciation. Love the hell out of yourself. If you don’t, then who will?

Don’t you ever wait to do what you enjoy. Do it now!


Going Green!

This past June, I made the decision to give up meat for good. It was fairly simple, as meat really wasn’t a big part of my diet. My oldest son has made a fuss here and there because he loves meat, but he has yet to dislike a meatless dish made.

A few Night ago a made vegetarian chili and he absolutely LOVED it.


I found this recipe from Damn Delicious via Pinterest.  It requires you to use quinoa instead of meat.

I’ll be honest, I miss hot wings. Today I’m going to try a buffalo cauliflower recipe and determine if I’ll be adding it to our menu regularly.


The cauliflower buffalo bites were a hit! They were better than I expected. We now have a new snack to add to the menu.

I’ll make a post about this whole process in the next couple days.


In addition to axing meat, I have vowed to juice more.  I have no hard set plan for juicing outside of juicing 3 consecutive days every month. All these changes are conducive with me deciding to live better and be healthier is all aspects. Your health is wealth. I cannot say that enough.  Without your health, you have nothing.

I’ll continue to share our journey to living better; The good, bad, and ugly.

As the wise Jerry Springer says “Take care of yourselves, and each other”.


Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

2017 has been a year of reconstruction and restoration for me, with self-healing and the law of attraction being the primary focus.

The Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. An example that always manifests in my life is when I think about a person, and I end up seeing them in public or they call me. The Law of Attraction applies to any and everything. Want health and prosperity, focus on health and prosperity. Focus on a negative outcome, receive a negative outcome.

In an effort to truly educate myself on LOA, I turned to YouTube. Contrary to popular belief, there is so much great content on YouTube. I found a few videos on tasks you should do to begin to actively engage in the Law of Attraction. One day, by chance happening, a video concerning the Law of Attraction and the power of visualization played. A man I had never heard of was speaking. Reverend Ike and his Mind Science appealed to me, as he talked of changing the way we think to get the things we want. In addition to changing how we thought, you have to put in the work to acquire these things. I then I added his teachings to my repertoire.

I previously wrote about 30 things I wanted to get done before I made 30. One item on that list was to read 5 new books. Instead of starting with a new book, I started with one I’ve read, but couldn’t really recall, so in a sense it’s new.

I started “The Mis-Education of the Negro” by Carter G. Woodson.

The book covers the topic of how obtaining degrees may have hurt black people as a whole. It touches on how those who receive formal educations tend to lose touch with the environments they come from and be detrimental by looking down on them and not helping those behind rise up. I know and understand that this happens across the board, but the book addressed the black community.

As I was reading, the following excerpt, “Real education means to inspire people to live life more abundantly, to learn to begin with life as they find it and make it better…” stood out to me and brought to my recollection two things. One, Reverend Ike teaching of no matter where you are in life, you can create the life you desire to live, and two an interview of rapper Future and Funk Master Flex that I’ve watched a countless number times.

In this particular interview Future speaks of how you can overcome the circumstances you’re born into, you just have t to want better and change the way you think. Below is the interview 👇🏾

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Let’s take a look at the excerpt again, “Real education means to inspire people to live life more abundantly, to learn to begin with life as they find it and make it better…”. Reverend Ike stated that you can change your life no matter what stage you’re in by changing your thoughts and visualization, and Future Hendrix stated, if you believe in the statistics, you’ll become on. You can’t stay mentally trapped, you have to think beyond those statistics. He made the decision where he found himself is not where he wanted to stay. He changed his thoughts, and saw the bigger picture. His trap was the hood and selling drugs, but your trap may be working a 9-5 with no real progress. You have to see beyond that, picture yourself doing what you desire out life.  Whatever your trap is, you can get out if you want it bad enough.  Funk Master Flex also stated how Future inspires many people in the hood, and that he’s an example of how you can make it out and do better.

The most powerful tool we possess is our mind, whatever you think will surely manifest. If we’re completely honest formal educations really do not teach you how to think, they teach you what to think. You’re prepared do a certain job, and no more than that.  If people are taught how to think, imagine the things that could be accomplished. Is it an easy task, no, but having the life you desire is the ultimate reward.

Success is within the gold mine of the mind. Think and use the gold mine between your ears”.- Earl Nightingale.

The Law of Attraction does require work, even the Holy Bible tells us that faith without works is dead. James 2:14-17 What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions? Can that kind of faith save anyone? Suppose you see a brother or sister who has no food or clothing, and you say, “Good-bye and have a good day; stay warm and eat well”—but then you don’t give that person any food or clothing. What good does that do? I am almost certain other religious texts discuss this topic. In the interview, Future state how what’s a few years to change how you think to get what you want.

Bottom line, your thoughts determine your life. What you think you become, so what are you thinking about?

The Law of Attraction is something that has peaked my interest, and I am going to do some extensive research to gain more knowledge on the topic.  I will infuse music and academic studies to show how the Law of Attraction works, even when we do not realize it. Stay tuned as I will share my knowledge acquired with anyone who will listen.

Remember, you can change your life right where you are. Change your thoughts, change your life.

This blog was inspired by a former friend whom I miss dearly. If you happen to be reading this, know that I love you, miss you, and still believe in you. Thank you for pushing me to be better when it seemed like no one else was in my corner.   

Affirmations, Do They Work?

I was sitting here revising and rewriting my affirmations, as many of them have come to fruition, and I thought I’d write how they have helped me in my life.
First things first, what are affirmations? Affirmations are declarations geared towards changing the way one thinks and behaves. Affirmations can be used to shape any area in life the user so chooses. I’ve used them for health, organization, and finances.

 Where can affirmations be found? There are books upon books upon books of affirmations. You can also find them online. I took it upon myself to write my own, as I needed specificity in a lot of areas of my life.

When should you do affirmations? You should designate time throughout the day solely for completing affirmations. I complete mine every morning before I start my day, and every night before bed. In the beginning I struggled to do them consistently, but I continued with them. Once I was well into my routine of doing my affirmations, I began noticing changes in how I thought and decisions I made. When I would consider not exercising or eating something I knew I shouldn’t, lines from my affirmations about my health would come to mind. When I wanted to put off school work simply because I did not feel like doing it, my affirmations about organization and procrastination would come to mind. Anytime I was going to do anything that went against what I wanted out of life, my affirmations came to mind. Once this was a constant process, I knew that affirmations were right for me. We are taught that our words have power, and I can attest to that. Speak positively about the things you seek to gain, and work to achieve them.

  Affirmations I had written about my son.

In addition to my affirmations, I created a vision board, and I am working on a creation box. I love the vision board because it is something I see everyday and is a visual reminder of the things I affirm daily. The concept of a creation box was given to me by my best friend. Once she told me about it, I did my own research. This blog by Andrea Conway was what made me decide to go forth with creating a box. It speaks of the Law of Attraction and how a creation box is a great tool to help manifest the things one wants. You can add to and of course remove things from your box as they come to fulfillment. I can whole heartedly say that affirmations have helped me, and I will continue with this practice.

Affirmations are your verbal contract with yourself to manifest your dreams. Write them, say them, edit them as often as you need to. It’s your life, go for the things you want.

“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul”. -William Ernest Henley