As a mother of two, I try to make sure both my boys get some one on one time with me.
I usually treat them to something they’ve been asking to do, and I let them talk about whatever it is that is on their minds.
Two weeks ago, I surprised my oldest with crawfish and a slush after school. The night before, he displayed behavior that made me so proud of him.
My baby boy had an ingrown toenail, and he was super whiny about it (I would’ve been too).
As I’m doctoring on his toe, he began to cry a little. Big brother came right in and grabbed his face, one hand on each cheek and said “It’s okay brother. I know it hurts, but mama is tryna make it better”. Baby brother then whimpers out “Okay”. It was the sweetest thing I had ever witnessed.
While still holding his cheeks, he coached his brother through a series of deep breaths.
Before he knew it, I was done, and his toe felt better.
“See big brother told you it was gonna be okay”.
I couldn’t help but smile when I heard that.
As the eldest sibling, you naturally swoop in and save your siblings. I was so proud of that display of love and care.
During our date I let him talk as usual. When it was all said and done, he gave me a hug and said ” I love you mommy”.
Sometimes I feel like I’m surely messing up as a mother, there’s no official guide to motherhood. However these precious moments confirm that I’m doing something right.
I am so proud of my son and how much he’s grown over the years.
Being the oldest is a sucky job at times, but someone has to do it.
Lately my skin had been feeling rough. No matter how often I washed, it just didn’t have that smoothness. I decided it was time to mask my skin.
I found this charcoal and seaweed mask at Walmart for $2.50. I had never used it before, so that solidified my decision to try it.
I had never used a mask like this, I generally use ones that you have to apply and spread on your face as opposed to a sheet.
Anyhow, I opened the masks d unfolded it. I peeled the first layer off and arranged the mask on my face. Once I had it settled, I peeled the other side off. This one was harder to remove, as I did not want to disrupt the mask placement on my face,
After I had it on, I felt as if I looked led like Hannibal taunting Clarice.
I left it on for 30 minutes. After I removed it, I rubbed the rest of the serum into my skin as instructed.
The next morning, I washed my face as usual. Before I was to moisturize, I noticed how soft and smooth my skin felt. I didn’t put moisturizer in, and jumped straight into my makeup routine, applying primer first.
My skin has been rather smooth these past couple of days.
I give this mask two thumbs up 👍🏾 👍🏾, and for $2.50, you can’t beat that.
If you follow my blog, you know that I created a list of 30 things to do by the time I made 30. You can read about here, 30 by 30, or see it below 👇🏾, with the things I’ve completed crossed off.
Spend 30 Minutes talking to a stranger.
Get a bikini wax. I know, I know! The thought just makes me cringe though.
Visit a new city in Texas
Experience a sensory deprivation chamber.
Spend $30 on lunch for someone
Do a Boudoir photo shoot. Gotta let this inner Goddess out!
Spend an entire weekend alone. I have no idea how this one will happen.
Go sky diving
Get another tattoo/ piercing. I have one tattoo that I got when I was 18.
Eat a meal I’ve never had before. Like that time I ate Guinea pig in Peru.
Go on a hot air balloon ride
Learn to gamble. I know absolutely nothing about gambling. I’d rather lose my money to buying shoes.
Go camping. As a kid I always wanted to do this.
Skinny dipping, YOLO!
Learn to twerk. I’ve given it some half ass attempts, but I need to use my whole ass and commit
Write and record a song. I can’t sing or rap, so this will be interesting.
Start a garden. I’ll have to figure out how to do so on my apartment patio.
Become a mentor. Everybody needs one or a few
Write a letter to my 40- year old self. I’m sure 40 -year old Sarah will laugh and say “Girl you are crazy”.
Go on a Baecation. That requires a bae, so I’ll work on that part.
Purchase something expensive.
Take more pictures. I am rarely in pictures, if you don’t count selfies, but I just don’t take pictures. I need to capture more moments in my life.
Do something freaky. I’m not even sure what that means, and it’s up for interpretation. But when I do it, I’m sure I’ll say “that was some freaky sh*t”.
Meditate 30 consecutive days. I can go about 10 days, then fall off the wagon.
Write an E-Book. I have no idea what it will be about, but I’ll get it done.
Read 5 new books. I read my fair share of children’s books, I need to enrich my own mind as well.
Visit each one of my friends. We all live in different cities, and I think it would be nice to visit them in their element.
Start my 40 things to do before 40 list. That list will be much more intricate, as I’ll have more time to compose it.
Learn other languages. I won’t just pick one, as I am heavily into linguistics.
Go to a hoedown.
Now some items were partially completed, like item 26. I read two books, and purchased more.
Some items where replaced by similar experiences. For example, I didn’t do item 4, but I did cryotherapy.
A few items were scheduled, but the weather simply did not permit.
Nonetheless, having made this list somehow made me more conscious of wanting to experience new things.
I was listening to an old speech by Jim Rohn, and he stated that one of the best things about having a list is checking things off, and being able to say ” I did that”. He was absolutely correct!
Having a written list of goals and desires helps propel you into completing and accomplishing them, which to me, goes back to the Law of Attraction. I’ve found that you shouldn’t worry too much about how the things will happen.
Never shy away from living life. I’m still working on honing in on my manifestation skills, but things always work out as they should.
Live life on purpose, don’t settle for the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve. Unapologetically live your life, after all it is YOURS.
Creating that list sparked something within me. I began deliberately going after the things I wanted to experience as opposed to wishing I’d experience them. We were designed to live life abundantly, and we should conduct ourselves accordingly.
What are some things you desire to experience? What’s keeping you from experiencing them?
A couple days ago, I woke up feeling some kind of way. As many of you know, Amir had 3 major head surgeries before he was a year old. The aftermath required him to have to go to different therapies to reach all his developmental milestones again (though thing for a parent to deal with). I remember at one of his neurology appointments, the neurologist told me “ You can have him tested to be put in special ed”. I told her that wouldn’t be necessary, but he was like two, so I was like what the fuck. That shit was always in the back of my mind. She was ready to label him without even really knowing him or assessing him.
Fast forward to now
He’s gearing up to attend Pre-K in the fall, and because he stutters occasionally, I went ahead and had him assessed. Ya know because I don’t want anything in the way of him learning.
The woman who assessed him took my concerns just as seriously as I did, and I appreciate that. I explained his medical history to her, and she was shocked. She stated how she never would’ve guessed he had gone through so much.
So boom, she begins assessing him. He’s ripping through these tests like it’s nothing. Answering everything with ease, and a bit of smartassness, (pretty sure I made that up). He even knew things I thought he didn’t know, things he’d tell me ” I don’t know” as an answer when we are reviewing material. Every so often she’d stop and say “Mom, I don’t know what you’re worried about, he’s really smart”.
I could see for myself she was thoroughly impressed, her body language said it all. She tested him for about 30 minutes, right. When she was done, she stated how he’s performing how they expect 6 year olds to perform. I was like what you talking about Willis. To me he was simply being smart ass Amir. (Insert gif)
She stated how she only heard him *insert technical name for stuttering here* once, and that it certainly does not affect his learning abilities.
Having him tested eased a lot of things for me. Knowing my 3-year and 9 month old perform how they expect 6-year olds to perform was quite comforting. My efforts of educating him have paid off.
After the assessment was done, I began to think about how the neurologist was ready to throw him into special education. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with special education, but I do have a problem with people labeling children, particularly black boys, before giving them a chance to display what they are capable of.
Parents should certainly get their children the help they need, but don’t let anyone label your children. You have to fight with and for your children. Don’t ever let anyone just throw labels on them.
I wonder where my baby would be now had I settled for what the neurologist suggested.
Nonetheless, I am super excited about my baby going to big boy school. He’s so elated to finally be going to school with his big brother. Hmm 🤔, I wonder what the results would show if I had my oldest tested, that kid is highly intelligent.
Each one of my children have taught me very different things, and that’s what motherhood is about. Not only are we to teach our children, but they teach us.
This journey with Prince Amir has been an extremely turbulent one at times, but oh so beautiful.
I’ll be 30 on the 5th, and I decided to simply go with the flow as far as celebrating.
Since I was 21, I’ve always made plans for my birthday, and things never go accordingly. Nothing bad ever happened, it’s just that things never go as planned. That’s made some hella great memories though.
There are no definitive plans this year, as spontaneity is what I’m seeking.
I have a few more items to knock off my 30 by 30 list. My goal is to knock them off by June 1st, so that I can start on my 40 by 40 list.
A few years back, I read a post, Treat Yo’Self To Birthday Month , by Alex Temblador , in which she discusses celebrating your damn self! 👋🏾 Hey Alex! I share it every year it comes up in my Facebook memories as a reminder; do what you want to do in celebration of yourself.
Now I do realize many people don’t celebrate their birthdays, I’m not one of those people! Partaaaaaay!
You celebrate your birthday the entire month, if that’s what you choose to do. We tend to be so consumed with all the other things life throws at us, and truly never celebrate ourselves.
It’s okay to celebrate you, don’t ever let anyone make you feel guilty for doing so.
Go on those trips, buy that expensive item, TREAT YO’SELF GUH!
Not only is my birthday in March, Spring begins this month, and it’s the start of Festival Season (I’ve been planning outfits all winter).
Even if my birthday wasn’t in March, it’d still probably be my favorite month.
Yesterday was Galentine’s Day, and all my gal pals live in other states. Today is Valentine’s Day, and I’m single. No biggie! I still treated myself.
I can’t stress enough to people how being single should not be something that worries you. Your singleness should empower you.
In your singleness. You should learn who you, what you like, what you don’t like, so on and so forth.
I never really understood why people let one day get them all bent out of shape. Something like Valentine’s Day shouldn’t define your entire existence. This post isn’t about bashing or complaining, it’s about appreciating self.
I know I love white chocolate strawberries, so I treated myself to some. No one should know you better than you know yourself.
My babies got me some bath bombs, and I treated myself to a nice bath. Lemongrass bath bomb with pink rose petals. It was hella relaxing.
I’m a firm believer in the Law of Attraction. If I do for myself the things I want a prospective mate to do, he will.
Anything you want, go get it, do it. You are the author of your story.
You should always treat yourself to new things and experiences as well as all the things you love. Show yourself appreciation. Love the hell out of yourself. If you don’t, then who will?
Don’t you ever wait to do what you enjoy. Do it now!
I recently went out in Beaumont for the first time ever, and it was fun! I flew solo as I don’t have any friends here.
The occasion was a 90s party, so I jumped at the opportunity. Ya know, because I love the 90s!
What I had originally envisioned to wear didn’t work out 😩 #bummer
I wasn’t too distraught, as I have countless outfit ideas in mind.
I miraculously found my hoodie at Forever 21. They have great 90s styles! Everything else I already owned. See outfit below 👇🏾
When I walked in the bar, lots of people immediately commented how they liked my ensemble. It was kind of weird at first, but hey 🤷🏾♀️.
When I was at the bar this guy commented on how my Nintendo hoodie was awesome 🤙🏾.
Once I had made my final round to the bar, a random drunk lady walked up to me and asked was I from Beaumont. My reply was no of course. She went on to say that she could tell from the way I was dressed, and thanked me for bringing my style to Beaumont. It was weird as hell, but I’m finding the most random moments in my life confirm a lot of things I put out into the universe.
We went on to slap slap bracelets on each other’s wrists. I mean what’s a 90s party without them?
The few photos I have from that night were taken by other drunk women. There’s an unspoken allegiance is women have when drunk.
Overall the night was great, and I’ll definitely be going out more. Going out alone isn’t all that weird, it’s all in your mind. How else will one make friends if they are always in the house.
Hoodie: Forever 21
Shorts: Rue 21
Boots: Dr Martens
Beanie: Forever 21
Also to be noted, my blog post have slowed down due to my kids breaking both my laptop and desktop 😩. Actually my desktop won’t power on, so I won’t blame that on the boys, but they are certainly the cause of the broken laptop. My screen is cracked, badly.
Anywho, I’m being diligent in my next laptop purchase, and will be back to weekly posts once I do.
I haven’t been writing much lately, and I miss it. One thing I have always wanted to do was give my readers some insight on who I am. What better way than to give you all some facts about me.
Let’s jump right in.
#1. Not that interesting, but worth noting, I am the oldest sibling. At times I really hate it, because I’m often put in situations where i have to rescue my siblings. Oftentimes when I give advice, they don’t listen, and then I have to hit them with the “I told you so”. It’s a stressful job but somebody has to do it.
#2. Nobody believes me at first, but I wear a size 11 shoe. Once I convince people that its true, they always say my feet don’t look that big. I mean they are pretty proportionate to the rest of my body, so it doesn’t look strange. Here’s a post I’ve previously written on where I get most of my shoes, 6 Inch.
#3. I am a huge Future fan 🙈. I freakin love that man, he has a song for any mood that I may be in. I’m not sure why so many people dislike him and his music. Not only do I love his music, but he’s easy on the eyes. My friends tell me every time they see a post of his come up in their newsfeeds, they know it’s because I liked it.
Performing his hit song “Mask off” June 22nd 2017, The Woodlands TX
#4. I am constantly changing my hair. I love trying new looks, it’s fun. People assume that people who change their hair a lot have no sense of self, and I completely disagree with that. I know who I am, and I simply like having different hairstyles and colors. 🤷🏾♀️
#5. Mental health is a serious issue to me. People very frequently brush mental health off, and it’s not something to be taken lightly. I am highly upset when I hear people make jokes about the mental health of others. Inner peace is something everyone deserves to have. People should address issues they may have and not let anyone convince them that they’re crazy, making things up, or what have you. Seek the help that you need, you’ll love yourself for that. Your mental wellness is a great part of who you are. #6. I’ll probably be a forever student. My mom used to tell me as a teenager, that I’d probably be in school the rest of my life. I thoroughly enjoy school. Presently I have a Bachelors degree in History from the University of Louisiana Monroe (Go Hawks Go), I am currently working on my Masters in Public Administration. Once I finish my masters program, I plan to go to massage therapy school. I also have plans to become a certified doula. I do my best to let others know that you can accomplish any and everything you desire to do in life.
#7. I love to travel. My travels began in undergrad with study abroad. If you or anyone close to you has the opportunity to do so, GO FOR IT! My primary goal is to visit all states 2-3 times with a different adventure in mind every time. I include my children when deciding on what to do on our adventures. They come up with pretty sweet ideas, might I add. I have a Cabo and Korea trip in the works, so stay tuned for that. You should know travel really is not expensive with the right amount of planning. Our latest adventure was to Lawn and Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. I encourage everyone to travel, even if its no mare than exploring other cities in the area you live.
#8. I hate taking pictures! I would much rather be the person behind the camera. I find posing for pics extremely awkward. So I guess I could say I don/t like taking pics because I never know what how to pose. It’s not so bad when I have some direction on what to do.
#9. I can very easily unplug form the world. When I feel overwhelmed with life, my phone is the first thing to get the boot. I will put it on do not disturb and spend as much time alone as possible ( it can seem impossible with a 3 and 5 year old). Hmm, I guess this goes back to number 5. My friends know that once I have figured it all out, I come back to society. Some would say that a Pisces thing. ♓️
I was sitting here revising and rewriting my affirmations, as many of them have come to fruition, and I thought I’d write how they have helped me in my life.
First things first, what are affirmations? Affirmations are declarations geared towards changing the way one thinks and behaves. Affirmations can be used to shape any area in life the user so chooses. I’ve used them for health, organization, and finances.
Where can affirmations be found? There are books upon books upon books of affirmations. You can also find them online. I took it upon myself to write my own, as I needed specificity in a lot of areas of my life.
When should you do affirmations? You should designate time throughout the day solely for completing affirmations. I complete mine every morning before I start my day, and every night before bed. In the beginning I struggled to do them consistently, but I continued with them. Once I was well into my routine of doing my affirmations, I began noticing changes in how I thought and decisions I made. When I would consider not exercising or eating something I knew I shouldn’t, lines from my affirmations about my health would come to mind. When I wanted to put off school work simply because I did not feel like doing it, my affirmations about organization and procrastination would come to mind. Anytime I was going to do anything that went against what I wanted out of life, my affirmations came to mind. Once this was a constant process, I knew that affirmations were right for me. We are taught that our words have power, and I can attest to that. Speak positively about the things you seek to gain, and work to achieve them.
Affirmations I had written about my son.
In addition to my affirmations, I created a vision board, and I am working on a creation box. I love the vision board because it is something I see everyday and is a visual reminder of the things I affirm daily. The concept of a creation box was given to me by my best friend. Once she told me about it, I did my own research. This blog by Andrea Conway was what made me decide to go forth with creating a box. It speaks of the Law of Attraction and how a creation box is a great tool to help manifest the things one wants. You can add to and of course remove things from your box as they come to fulfillment. I can whole heartedly say that affirmations have helped me, and I will continue with this practice.
Affirmations are your verbal contract with yourself to manifest your dreams. Write them, say them, edit them as often as you need to. It’s your life, go for the things you want.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul”. -William Ernest Henley