Live Life

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If you follow my blog, you know that I created a list of 30 things to do by the time I made 30. You can read about here, 30 by 30, or see it below 👇🏾, with the things I’ve completed crossed off.

  1. Spend 30 Minutes talking to a stranger.
  2. Get a bikini wax. I know, I know! The thought just makes me cringe though.
  3. Visit a new city in Texas
  4. Experience a sensory deprivation chamber.
  5. Spend $30 on lunch for someone
  6. Do a Boudoir photo shoot. Gotta let this inner Goddess out!
  7. Spend an entire weekend alone. I have no idea how this one will happen.
  8. Go sky diving
  9. Get another tattoo/ piercing. I have one tattoo that I got when I was 18.
  10. Eat a meal I’ve never had before. Like that time I ate Guinea pig in Peru.
  11. Go on a hot air balloon ride
  12. Learn to gamble. I know absolutely nothing about gambling. I’d rather lose my money to buying shoes.
  13. Go camping. As a kid I always wanted to do this.
  14. Skinny dipping, YOLO!
  15. Learn to twerk. I’ve given it some half ass attempts, but I need to use my whole ass and commit
  16. Write and record a song. I can’t sing or rap, so this will be interesting.
  17. Start a garden. I’ll have to figure out how to do so on my apartment patio.
  18. Become a mentor. Everybody needs one or a few
  19. Write a letter to my 40- year old self. I’m sure 40 -year old Sarah will laugh and say “Girl you are crazy”.
  20. Go on a Baecation. That requires a bae, so I’ll work on that part.
  21. Purchase something expensive.
  22. Take more pictures. I am rarely in pictures, if you don’t count selfies, but I just don’t take pictures. I need to capture more moments in my life.
  23. Do something freaky. I’m not even sure what that means, and it’s up for interpretation. But when I do it, I’m sure I’ll say “that was some freaky sh*t”.
  24. Meditate 30 consecutive days. I can go about 10 days, then fall off the wagon.
  25. Write an E-Book. I have no idea what it will be about, but I’ll get it done.
  26. Read 5 new books. I read my fair share of children’s books, I need to enrich my own mind as well.
  27. Visit each one of my friends. We all live in different cities, and I think it would be nice to visit them in their element.
  28. Start my 40 things to do before 40 list. That list will be much more intricate, as I’ll have more time to compose it.
  29. Learn other languages. I won’t just pick one, as I am heavily into linguistics.
  30. Go to a hoedown.

Now some items were partially completed, like item 26. I read two books, and purchased more.

Some items where replaced by similar experiences. For example, I didn’t do item 4, but I did cryotherapy.

A few items were scheduled, but the weather simply did not permit.

Nonetheless, having made this list somehow made me more conscious of wanting to experience new things.

I was listening to an old speech by Jim Rohn, and he stated that one of the best things about having a list is checking things off, and being able to say ” I did that”. He was absolutely correct!

Having a written list of goals and desires helps propel you into completing and accomplishing them, which to me, goes back to the Law of Attraction. I’ve found that you shouldn’t worry too much about how the things will happen.

Never shy away from living life. I’m still working on honing in on my manifestation skills, but things always work out as they should.

Live life on purpose, don’t settle for the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve. Unapologetically live your life, after all it is YOURS.

Creating that list sparked something within me. I began deliberately going after the things I wanted to experience as opposed to wishing I’d experience them. We were designed to live life abundantly, and we should conduct ourselves accordingly.

What are some things you desire to experience? What’s keeping you from experiencing them?

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❄️ Snow Day ❄️

Yesterday was a snow day in Southeast Texas, but we only got sleet. I’m a little salty about that. We were indoors pigging our on king cake and chips and salsa 😩. Our first and last true snow day was back in December, and my sons and I had a blast.

We don’t get snow days often, so when we do, they’re extremely memorable. So because we were snow-less, I’ll show some of our pics from the last snow day.

Baby boy was truly amazed.

He was super excited about a snowball fight

He’s not too fond of the snow.

Even though we had no snow day yesterday, our December snow day was pretty cool. It inspired me to plan a vacation to somewhere with better snow. As a kid I lived in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and I think it’d be pretty cool to take the boys. I vividly remember our snow days there.

Do you enjoy snow days? What are some of your favorite winter destinations? Do you live in a place that gets snow regularly during the winter?

I’d love to make friends with other moms in various cities. I just think it’d be cool to say “Hey! We’re going to visit insert name here over in DC this winter”.

In the age of social media, we have opportunities to make friends all over, but I think we’re all scared for whatever reasons.

Anyhow, I’m still salty about no snow yesterday! 

Pastels in Winter, whaaaat?

It’s 2018, and people are still holding onto those traditional rules of fashion. “Don’t wear white after Labor Day, no bright colors in winter”.

Where is it written that we HAVE to wear dark colors in winter?

Wherever it is, throw the whole book away 🚮

Just last week my mom was freaking out about a wearing a dress because it was too bright.

I personally feel as if bright colors should purposely be worn in winter. I think the colors will liven your spirits as most of us are already salty about the cold.

With anything, it’s not what you wear but how you wear it.

Make your winter wardrobe pop with some pastels. Wear that pastel peacoat over your favorite turtle neck, dark wash denim, and a fly bootie.

With your personal style, your winter pastel possibilities are endless.

The dress featured in this post, I’ve owned since November 2016. It was originally purchased to wear to the Formation World Tour. ( Check out that experience here ) Thanks to a mix up, it was delivered the day of, and I had to scramble for an alternate, as the dress would be delivered while I was en route to the show.

As a person who would wait for a special occasion to wear items in my wardrobe, I’m telling you to WEAR YOUR PIECES. The occasion may never come, so wear them.

Bottom line, wear what you want, when you want, how you want.

Dress: Fashion Nova

Shoes: GoJane

Choker: Fashion Nova

** I wrote this post before shooting photos of me in the dress. Well the photos didn’t make it 😩😩. I’ll do the shoot over then, post the pics. **

Sarah Stylin’

For as long as I can remember, I have loved to play dress up. There’s something about putting outfits together and prancing around in them that makes me happy. It’s kind of weird because I’m not a girly woman or a tomboyish woman, I’m somewhere in the middle.

Nonetheless, I love styling myself and other people. I know there are certain fashion trends everyone follows, but being able to style in-spite of trends is not something everyone can do.

Little known fact, I’ve always wanted to be a stylist. I’m not really sure why I’ve never told anyone that, but strangely enough people are always asking me to help them create a look or find pieces for them.

As a believer in the law of attraction, I’ve decided to run with this. There’s a reason why I love to create various looks, and others have asked on several occasions to style them.

I’ve created a section on my blog called “Stylin“, and here I will post different style photos I take. So don’t be a stranger to that section.

Here in this post, I’ve included photos from a session I like to call In living color. The look was inspired by the kick off of Mardi Gras 💜💚💛 season and of course the 90s. The jacket pictured, is one my mom has had for as long as I can remember. It’s an ode to New Orleans, one of my favorite cities.

90s fashion is my passion, I love everything about it! Majority of my looks will have 90’s incorporated somehow.

So stay tuned! I’m low key excited about this new venture, who knows where it’ll lead. For now, I’ll just have fun with it. 😎

 10 Facts About Me

Sending positive energy everyone’s way.

I haven’t been writing much lately, and I miss it. One thing I have always wanted to do was give my readers some insight on who I am. What better way than to give you all some facts about me.

Let’s jump right in.

#1. Not that interesting, but worth noting,  I am the oldest sibling. At times I really hate it, because I’m often put in situations where i have to rescue my siblings. Oftentimes when I give advice, they don’t listen, and then I have to hit them with the “I told you so”. It’s a stressful job but somebody has to do it.

#2. Nobody believes me at first, but I wear a size 11 shoe. Once I convince people that its true, they always say my feet don’t look that big. I mean they are pretty proportionate to the rest of my body, so it doesn’t look strange. Here’s a post I’ve previously written on where I get most of my shoes, 6 Inch.

#3. I am a huge Future fan 🙈. I freakin love that man, he has a song for any mood that I may be in. I’m not sure why so many people dislike him and his music. Not only do I love his music, but he’s easy on the eyes. My friends tell me every time they see a post of his come up in their newsfeeds, they know it’s because I liked it.

I finally had a chance to meet him, and he said he liked my hair 😁

 

 

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Performing his hit song “Mask off” June 22nd 2017, The Woodlands TX

#4. I am constantly changing my hair. I love trying new looks, it’s fun. People assume that people who change their hair a lot have no sense of self, and I completely disagree with that. I know who I am, and I simply like having different hairstyles and colors. 🤷🏾‍♀️

My current hair
My natural hair in twists

I miss my box braids
Feed-in braids

#5. Mental health is a serious issue to me. People very frequently brush mental health off,  and it’s not something to be taken lightly. I am highly upset when I hear people make jokes about the mental health of others. Inner peace is something everyone deserves to have. People should address issues they may have and not let anyone convince them that they’re crazy, making things up, or what have you. Seek the help that you need, you’ll love yourself for that. Your mental wellness is a great part of who you are. #6. ​I’ll probably be a forever student. My mom used to tell me as a teenager, that I’d probably be in school the rest of my life. I thoroughly enjoy school. Presently I have a Bachelors degree in History from the University of Louisiana Monroe (Go Hawks Go), I am currently working on my Masters in Public Administration. Once I finish my masters program, I plan to go to massage therapy school. I also have plans to become a certified doula. I do my best to let others know that you can accomplish any and everything you desire to do in life.

#7. I love to travel. My travels began in undergrad with study abroad. If you or anyone close to you has the opportunity to do so, GO FOR IT! My primary goal is to visit all states 2-3 times with a different adventure in mind every time. I include my children when deciding on what to do on our adventures. They come up with pretty sweet ideas, might I add. I have a Cabo and Korea trip in the works, so stay tuned for that. You should know travel really is not expensive with the right amount of planning.  Our latest adventure was to Lawn and Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. I encourage everyone to travel, even if its no mare than exploring other cities in the area you live.

I got to stop by Geronimo’s grave in Fort Sill

#8. I hate taking pictures! I would much rather be the person behind the camera. I find posing for pics extremely awkward. So I guess I could say I don/t like taking pics because I never know what how to pose. It’s not so bad when I have some direction on what to do.

#9. I can very easily unplug form the world. When I feel overwhelmed with life, my phone is the first thing to get the boot. I will put it on do not disturb and spend as much time alone as possible ( it can seem impossible with a 3 and 5 year old).  Hmm, I guess this goes back to number 5. My friends know that once I have figured it all out, I come back to society. Some would say that a Pisces thing. ♓️
#10.

Power of a Caption. Putting it all in Perspective 

A few days ago, I watched a video on Facebook about photographers and their perspective. I believe it was six photographers, photographing the same man, but they were each given a different story about him. The results of the photos were more than interesting to say the least. In that same day, I saw a meme of children playing, which seemed very innocent to me, but the caption attached twisted it into something far worse. 
Over the weekend, I spent the day with a friend (male friend, might I add), that I hadn’t seen in 5 years, nothing serious. When I returned home that evening and went through pics I had taken that day, a light bulb went off. People believe anything you post onto social media, if you spin it correctly. Everyone gets caught up on photos and their captions, not knowing the truth behind them. I had a picture of my friend going through his phone while we were waiting for our food. Something so boring, right? After going through all photos from the day, I chose that photo as the one I’d use. 

I am a very private person, my personal life hardly ever makes it to social media, so I knew this particular photo would stir some things up. I talked with one of my girlfriends about when would be the perfect time to post the photo. She told me to wait late at night, when people tend to do the most lurking. Next I needed a caption. We brainstormed, and came up with “distant lover”. Once I decided when and what the caption would say, I told the friend that was photographed what was going on. He thought it was funny. 
 
 

So here goes nothing! I posted the pic! Not that I cared, but it got a minimum number of likes, but that was expected. I’ll have you know I received some interesting messages the next day. The most interesting of them all, was from a guy I was supposed to be going on a date with at the end of the week.  

 

Mind you, I am a single woman, free to date as I please. He went on about how he knew that’s why I wasn’t giving him any of my time, so on and so forth. I explained to him that the photo was an experiment, but that fragile male ego just wouldn’t let him believe it. The kicker part of the convo was when he said “Right glad I didn’t waste my time and money“, ok sir, if that’s how you feel. 

I received other messages as well, but the people they came from were totally expected. 

The sole purpose of this was to see first hand how people believe anything. People see things others post and romanticize. We all tend to be a little extra with our captions on pictures, that’s why one should know not to believe everything you read. We can lead people to believe things about our lives that simply are NOT true. Stop falling victim to any and everything that you see. Evaluate what you’re putting out for the world to see. 

The fact that men still view women as “their property” was something else I learned from this. As long as I portray myself as a damsel in distress, men are interested. That’s not how this works fellas. When you are single, you can date whomever you please. Once it is agreed that you are in a relationship, then the dating of others should cease. Oh, here’s a little secret, you can date people and not be sexual with them. *Gasps* shocking, but true. We are not your property because you took us on a few dates. 

Back to the original issue at hand. Who are you attempting to convince with your captions, yourself or the public? A picture is worth a thousand words, what words are giving your photos value? 

Since writing this, I found the link to the video I mentioned, so take a look http://www.shutterbug.com/content/lab-pushes-boundaries-photography-decoy#ZSw7m6MjeGmpwY87.97

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Social Media, a Passive Aggressive Safe Haven

In this day and age, passive aggressive behavior is at an all time high. At least in my opinion. We have social media to thank for that. Yes, we have all participated in passive aggressive behavior online, but truly passive aggressive people are thriving off this. 

Nowadays people will post statuses, memes, quotes, and even go as far as commenting on things they know will be seen by the person/people they are targeting.

 
What ever happened to simply telling people how you felt?!? For me I can respect a person who simply told me whatever their issue was with me. People act as if confrontation is a bad thing. If both parties are mature and will conduct themselves accordingly, issues could quite possibly be resolved.  

 

I’ll have you know that the indirect directness of social media only fuels ones disdain for you. Grow up, get a back bone and, address your issues. Life is entirely to short to not simply tell people what the nuisance is.

As aforementioned, we have all participated in passive aggressive behavior online. Own up to it, but please refrain from hiding behind virtual doors. 

  

I’m sure this post will be seen as passive aggressive as well, but someone had to say it. 

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